Sunday, 4 April 2010

Conversation as we know it

For the last few days I have been off the netwaves because a flood in a BT exchange knocked off our internet.

It's amazing what happens.

We talk more. We all talk more. To each other.

Y and I discussed the shortcomings of Dr. Who and, why oh why, don't they get to interesting other planets but seem to end up in London or Cardiff each episode. She read a Dr. Who book and was seriously absorbed. We talked of many things after that... cabbages and kings...

E and I went over her second marked assignment for her Open University Law course (she got a high A on this and on the first assignment, and the tutor said some very complimentary things about her writing style).

We all hung out together. We did housework, and we talked about the changes we are making to our world and those we wish to make. Y scraped walls because the painter and decorator is in next week, and we spoke about religion (well, it is Easter). She went with me to my mother's who was in a questioning mood about 'where we go when we die' and 'what is the soul and where is it?'

The girls played some games, learning Chinese history from those games during their fun breaks. They stopped for more chats.

It's called 'purposive conversation' - the art of talking, well respected in our society. We reward everyone who can talk - even if they don't do it that effectively. This is a deeper kind of talking, though, it develops your thought processes, it extends your knowledge, it deepens your feeling for others and helps you to see 'where they are coming from'.

"... research that shows that high achieving 'genius' children have a background of both individualised attention and purposive conversational learning, which are found to be major factors in their accelerated intellectual development."

Not that I particularly want to have given birth to genius children, but I get a warm feeling when I realise that I am doing my best for my young while talking to them. And enjoying myself too because they are really interesting people and I learn a lot from them.

Do you think it's too late for me to turn into a high achieving genius?

A topic for another discussion perhaps.


  1. Depends on your definition of genius, really, doesn't it? I don't particularly celebrate 'genius' when it makes you comparable to a machine. Or worse.

  2. I am fascinated by language development. Part of my foundation year in Interpreting British Sign Language was on linguistics-and although the lecturer was as boring as heck and wasted time teaching us Klingon I got interested in how language effected relationships and mental health (being a psychi nurse). I then worked with an interpreter who was a linguistics nut too and we spent hours discussing the research and looking at how it effected our clients.

    Talking with people is the primary way to form relationships. Attachment theory is really about how parents (mainly mothers to begin with) talk with and to their children.

    The fact that you have your children around you probably increases their language ability and understanding simply because they are loved.

  3. Hey Danae! I think we won!! The nasties have drowned in the Wash UP!